How to be a Super(mom / wife / businesswoman) and save your sanity

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Lots of people who follow me on Instagram and know me personally always compliment on my ability to balance my business, my family, and myself. I am often asked, how do I do it? How do I manage everything and keep my sanity? Let me tell you something, it’s not easy!

Being that I am a real estate salesperson, I am in business for myself. I am, in all honesty, an entrepreneur (a businesswoman). And being an entrepreneur, I have to appropriately manage my time so that I can have a life as well as have a business. I have to live by scheduling. Sometimes it’s hard to stick to it as things do happen, especially when you have a child, but I have to stick to it as much as possible in order to get things done. I was never used to working with a calendar because I had always done things on a whim, so switching to a calendar life was very difficult. I sometimes have relapses however I keep trying. As I keep doing it, it gets easier and I am getting better at it.

Also, I always, ALWAYS, make time for myself! Of course, that’s situated within my schedule but making time for yourself keeps you happy and sane.

So what do I do? How do I break up my time? How to I keep my sanity?

Well here are some tips that should help you if you are trying to get the most out of life in the few hours we have in a day:

1) Wake up early!

Now, I usually get up around 5:30 in the morning although I am thinking that I maybe should make it earlier. Before, I used to get up at around 4:30am to work out at a Planet Fitness that’s literally a block away from my home but I have since switched gyms and due to where I live vs the distance to my new gym, working out at that time won’t work for me anymore. I find waking up this early helps a lot as I have time to make my coffee, get my son ready for school, make his lunch for the day, get ready and make sure that I have my gym clothes and everything else that I may need for my day packed. It also allows me to meditate, which brings me to number two.

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2) Meditation

I have been doing it for over a month now and boy has it been helpful. Everyone should do some form of meditation. Why do I say some form of meditation? Well those who follow religions and pray are also in a meditative state. Yoga is another form of meditation which is also a form of exercising. That moment of silence and focus on yourself allows for clarity. Also, as I suffer from anxiety, it helps calm my worries greatly. I always push to meditate early in the morning and right before bed. I have even done it during the day when I have some free time. You can meditate in as little as 3 minutes however, the longer the better. I find 10 minutes and more works the best.

Related: My Journey Into Self Care

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3) Exersize

I usually work out 4 days a week, right after I drop my son off at school. That’s what works for me because of the location of the gym which is close to my office. I would rather head to the gym before I even head out for the day, that would be the best way to maximize my time, but for now, this is what works best for me. I am a strong believer that working out early in the morning, before you start your day, gives you a big boost in your day. As you know, working out dumps tons of serotonin, endorphins, and dopamine in your system. It’s a beautiful, natural high. Not only that, but knowing that you killed it at your workout makes you proud of your efforts which also boosts your views of yourself and elevates your mood for the day.

4) Maximize your commute

If you walk or drive for your commute, you could play some motivational speeches or an audio book. If you are a train or bus commuter, read a book. I am stuck in a train for over 30 minutes. That’s more than enough time to read something useful. I regularly read when I leave for work and when I head home which is over an hour of book time! Sometimes I switch it up and read various articles on various topics such as the local news, science, finance, and real estate. Emails, messages, and social media can wait for later.

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5) Set blocks of tasks

Throughout my day, I have time blocks set up. I set time to make phone calls, time to check emails, time to return calls, time to check my database, time to check, post and make updates on social media, time to pick up my son, time to socialize with parents, and the list goes on. Seeing that I have tons to do and little time to do it, I set most of my blocks for 30 minutes. More family oriented activities are longer of course! Yes, I also block family time! I also have certain blocks set aside for meetings as well and any appointments have to fit in my schedule. Sure some flexibility is needed however if you are always fully flexible, you’ll never get anything done! You’ll never have time for yourself or your family. If you are single and you don’t mind getting burned out, be my guest but that can’t work for me.  I tried it before. My family and I were super stressed and I had shut down plenty of times. To keep yourself balanced, it’s best to keep to your blocks as if they are set in stone. Sure, sometimes life happens and you will have to make changes but generally, stick to your blocks. Believe me, it helps!

6) Make sure to set blocks for yourself

I usually have my “me” time after I put my son to bed. I get him in bed by 8pm which allows me to have time to get everything ready for the next day, check and respond to emails, and then have my “me” time. Me time for me includes, meditation, taking a hot bath with essential oils, listening to music, reading something good, learning something new, and a having glass of wine!

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7) Set blocks during “work time” for personal errands

I love being an entrepreneur! I can actually do things that I need to get done for my son’s school or personal things like paying a bill or setting doctor appointments without any issues during my “work hours”. Sure, I don’t make it an all day thing but if I can do something within a blocked time, I’ll take care of it which allows me to have more family time later in the day instead of getting an errand done.

8) Socialize

I am not talking about texting, emails, and social media. Actually meeting with people and talking to people face to face in either an intimate setting or a group event. Humans are social creatures. Even if you like to be in your own shell and have some social anxieties, you still have friends. Make sure to meet with them or even call them on a phone. I think many people have forgotten about making a phone call these days. I meet with my long time friends during weekends or even during the week for lunch, I am also a part of a few committees at my son’s school which allows me to talk with other parents. I have become friends with quite a few parents at my son’s school and often have play dates were our kids can burn out their energy while we chat and gossip. I love going to networking events as well as educational events where I meet even more people.

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Some other things that I do:

  • Turn an errand into something fun by adding a museum visit after a quick meeting on Saturday with my son.
  • Inform clients of a cut off time during week nights. I have to pick up my son from school daily and make dinner as well as spend time with him. My clients are appreciative when I let them know upfront of what my limitations are.
  • Knowing my limits. Saying no is sometimes the best medicine. I am only one person and I can’t do everything.
  • Asking for help. Seriously, sometimes things come up and I need a babysitter for whatever reason. My husband’s job isn’t flexible at all but knowing all these parents at my son’s school are great and supportive. You never know who will assist you if you don’t ask!
  • Have a day off for family. Usually I take my day off on Thursdays. I don’t take any calls or emails, unless its an emergency (such as a closing). Of course I let my clients know before hand.

Have anything to add on how you balance your life, family, and business? Please share in the comments! If you know someone who might find this useful, please share it with them!

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39 COMMENTS

  1. Awesome content, I don’t work but I do run a small business from my home plus my blog plus my family. Oh man! It’s hectic, but I’ve literally started planning things in advance and has helped out so much.

  2. Thanks! Yes! I read your article and I agree with all the benefits you had listed in it. It’s really amazing what a few minutes throughout the day in deep meditation can do for you.

    • Thank you Kimberly! Not long ago, I didn’t believe in that. But as I started feeling horrible and even more emotionally stable, I found out that self-care is primary and everything else should be secondary. If we don’t take care of ourselves first, we won’t be able to function at our prime.

    • Thanks Alvern! Yes, being organized on the timing of when things should be done helps from not getting overwhelmed. I also love to add changes here and there, weather permitting. I love to take walks in our parks as they make you feel as if you are no longer in the city.

  3. Nice suggestions on better time management…discipline and setting the priority right matters…I am a stuckker for schedule and start my day at 5 am….and keep lots of me time….and time for socialising..

    • Thank you Moni! I truly appreciate the kind words and yes, this can work for anyone who is juggling multiple things such as yourself! A doctor, painter, blogger and businesswoman, truly amazing!

  4. This is so true! My mom is my super hero. I think juggling from house, raising me and my sister and having a career dealing with so many things everyday. I do believe daily exercise and waking up in the morning with meditation really helps!

  5. Such a great post packed with heaps of good, practical advice. You are one super organized lady! Everything you have said here makes so much sense and I particularly think that scheduling ‘you’ time to look after yourself is really important to remain productive and in control.

  6. Wonderful tips. everyone needs to take time to take care of themselves, meditate, and clear their head. It’s the only way to make sure you can get some stuff done.

  7. You have a great list and I do agree with exercising early in the morning. I do hit to the gym in the morning to get some energy for the rest of the day. One thing I need to improve is networking as I am weak in socialising with people.

    • That’s awesome that you work out early! I’d say take baby steps with socializing. Start with one-on-one’s with those you know. Lunches or coffee meetups are great. Or, possibly join a group who has similar interests like you do. They have groups for everything these days. Meeting with people who are similar to you sure breaks the ice quickly and easily, compared to meeting strangers.

  8. I do a lot of these same things. It does help to exercise regularly. I read my Bible and listen to worship music. It puts me in the right mindset for the day.

    • Yes! I am not a religious person however I know that praying and listening to worship sessions as well as worship music is similar to meditation and has similar effects. It creates calm and clairty to your vision and beliefs.

  9. It seems that every article that I read about self-care, the very first thing that is mentioned is waking up early. Ugh! That sounds awful, but maybe everyone has a good point to it. I loved all of your points, including asking for help. I struggle with that because I don’t want to bother anyone, but we need to have time to ourselves too, so it doesn’t hurt to ask.

    • It never hurts to ask! If you shut down, then nothing gets done! Plus, too much stress and being overworked can be horrible for your health. Sometimes I feel like I don’t want to bother people but when I do ask, I find out it’s not a bother to them and that they actually want to help.

  10. Alicia, these are all such great pointers! Living by the calendar is so stress relieving. My husband and I have a shared Google calendar so we know when appointments are, upcoming events, special dates, and bills due.

  11. The only thing I’m actively doing on your list is getting up early. And that’s not good for anyone unless that time is extremely productive!

  12. I commend super moms like you. I see you mediate and I think thats a great secret weapon to keep all of your skills and emotions balanced.

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